Reblogged from JFG: “The Red Pill Is Wrong: Becoming a Better Beta”

The great majority of common men are “betas”.  They favor cooperation over conflict, and unlike “alphas”, the will to power is not a prime motivator for them.  They have no overwhelming ambition to lead many men nor to seduce many women.  Betas are characterized by flexible dominant/submissive behavior and can switch readily between situational dominant and submissive roles as the social context requires.  This allows them to work well in a hierarchy as both boss and subordinate.  In contrast to alphas, who always seek dominance, and gammas, who always accept submission, betas accept the roles that advance the well-being of the group.

Unfortunately, we live in a society that no longer values a well balanced beta man.  Instead, it weakens the common man so that women may be more equal in comparison.  The proximate cause of this cultural transformation has been feminism.  Feminists, in attempting to assert social and economic equality for women, face two serious obstacles.  First, men are naturally more aggressive and assertive than women, especially in intra-sexual interactions, where the natural sexual instincts motivate dominant actions in men and submissive responses in women.  While feminists deny this biological reality, they still must counteract it somehow.  Their solution has been social mores that shame male dominance and promote female dominance in order to counteract biology with pro-female cultural biases.

The second obstacle for feminism is men’s superior ability to build large scale social structures and institutions (see Baumeister, Is There Anything Good About Men?).  These institutions enhance the situational dominance or submission of men by placing them in a hierarchy where much of the power differentials reside in the institution, not the individuals.  These man-made institutions enhance the power of men relative to women, who specialize in small networks of relatives and close family.  This male institutional power is what feminist call Patriarchy.

To diminish the institutional power of men relative to women, feminists have worked to isolate men from their supportive peer networks and limit their socialization to the realm of friends and family, where women reign supreme.  Most fraternal organizations have either been eliminated or forced to admit women, after which they are changed to favor the needs of women over men.  A range of other social pressures and diversions are also brought to bear on men to further their isolation:  using homophobia to emotionally isolate men from each other; fostering a cult of rugged masculine individuality that leaves most non-alpha men weak and isolated; divisive identity politics; pervasive negative portrayals of masculine socialization; and the anesthetizing effect of electronic media.

Many of these trends were prevalent as early as the 1830’s, when the “domestic feminism” associated with the “cult of domesticity” held sway across the Western world.

Read the entire essay here.

Reblogged from Loving in the Ruins: “Unmarried, Not Single.”

sunshinemary:

An outstanding post from Elspeth about the importance of teaching our teen-aged and young adult children of the joy and blessing of doing one’s duty and serving one’s family rather than wasting time in a self-centered extended adolescence.

Originally posted on Loving in the Ruins:

Our oldest daughter, Bright Eyes, has been having a challenging time of late in one of her classes. It’s one of those classes that was mostly unheard of when I was in college; one where the whole semester is based on group project work. I have all kinds of problems with that but it’s a topic for another day.

In this particular course she has been paired off with an older married man who piggybacks on her diligence and hard work. They finally had a long needed conversation on their divergent definitions of the word “collaboration’, and she was confronted yet again with a common excuse offered by college students with families when speaking with unmarried college students: “I  have family responsibilities which is why I can’t get as much done, whereas you don’t.”

To say she was livid would be an understatement. She made clear in no uncertain terms…

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Reblogging

Although I’m not writing any new posts on this blog, it still seems to get a lot of traffic. Therefore, I am going to use this site from time to time to reblog posts written by other bloggers that readers here may find of interest.

Even so, come Lord Jesus.

“Noli Me Tangere” (1511-12) by Tiziano Vecelli (Titian)

Jesus Christ, the Son of God, was crucified, suffered, and died.

But then — hallelujah and praise His holy Name! — He rose from the dead!

Now on the first day of the week Mary Magdalene came to the tomb early, while it was still dark, and saw that the stone had been taken away from the tomb.  So she ran and went to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one whom Jesus loved, and said to them,

“They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, and we do not know where they have laid him.”

So Peter went out with the other disciple, and they were going toward the tomb.  Both of them were running together, but the other disciple outran Peter and reached the tomb first.  And stooping to look in, he saw the linen cloths lying there, but he did not go in.  Then Simon Peter came, following him, and went into the tomb. He saw the linen cloths lying there,  and the face cloth, which had been on Jesus’ head, not lying with the linen cloths but folded up in a place by itself. Then the other disciple, who had reached the tomb first, also went in, and he saw and believed; for as yet they did not understand the Scripture, that he must rise from the dead.  Then the disciples went back to their homes.

But Mary stood weeping outside the tomb, and as she wept she stooped to look into the tomb. And she saw two angels in white, sitting where the body of Jesus had lain, one at the head and one at the feet. They said to her, 

“Woman, why are you weeping?”

She said to them, 

“They have taken away my Lord, and I do not know where they have laid him.”  

Having said this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing, but she did not know that it was Jesus.  Jesus said to her, 

“Woman, why are you weeping? Whom are you seeking?” 

Supposing him to be the gardener, she said to him,

“Sir, if you have carried him away, tell me where you have laid him, and I will take him away.” 

Jesus said to her, 

“Mary.” 

She turned and said to him in Aramaic, 

“Rabboni!” 

(which means Teacher).  Jesus said to her, 

“Do not cling to me, for I have not yet ascended to the Father; but go to my brothers and say to them, ‘I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.’”

Mary Magdalene went and announced to the disciples,

“I have seen the Lord”

—and that he had said these things to her.

(John 20:1-18)

But He did not just rise from the dead. He also promised us that He will return.

“Behold, I am coming soon, bringing my recompense with me, to repay each one for what he has done. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the first and the last, the beginning and the end.”

Blessed are those who wash their robes, so that they may have the right to the tree of life and that they may enter the city by the gates. Outside are the dogs and sorcerers and the sexually immoral and murderers and idolaters, and everyone who loves and practices falsehood.

“I, Jesus, have sent my angel to testify to you about these things for the churches. I am the root and the descendant of David, the bright morning star.”

The Spirit and the Bride say, “Come.” And let the one who hears say, “Come.” And let the one who is thirsty come; let the one who desires take the water of life without price.

(Revelation 22:12-17)

Even so, Come Lord Jesus!

Continued charity and also a break.

[Update: Thank you for your kind email notes, everyone.  For those interested, my thoughts on present matters are on my other blog.  And now I'll be away from my computer through Easter, so I won't be responding to email again until next week.  Have a blessed Easter.]

Several months ago, my father-in-law, who was a veteran of the Korean War, passed away; this weekend is his military memorial service.  We have family from out of town staying with us and will be busy all weekend, trying to conclude our grieving at my father-in-law’s passing by remembering his life and what a wonderful man he was.  Since the charity drive is still going on here, I would ask readers who are considering donating to a charitable cause to consider making a donation to the Veterans of Foreign Wars; you can read more about that organization in my post about the charity drive. Also, I’ve decided to take a blogging break, at least for the rest of Lent and perhaps longer, in order to attend to work and extended family matters which need more of my time at present.

I wish everyone a blessed Easter.