New reader Jessica remarked:
…you see it everyday; women talking down to their husband’s in public, berating and nagging and putting them down for the whole world to see. And yet you rarely if ever see men speaking to women that way in public
To which Julian O’Dea responded with:
If your wife is rude to you when you go somewhere together, stop going there with her. Men berated by their wives at supermarkets should not be there in the first place.
I heard a husband tell his wife to control their dog at the vet’s today. That is so rare that I was not sure he had actually done it. Wives ordering husbands around is more common.
I chimed in to add:
Women will behave about as well or as poorly as you train them to. Don’t want her to disrespect you in public? Then don’t tolerate it even once.
And Julian O’Dea provided an illuminating example:
I was driving my wife to work a couple of days ago,during the middle of her bout of PMT (PMS).. She made a disrespectful remark. So I took her home and told her to catch the bus. She was seriously inconvenienced. Do not tolerate serious disrespect.
A wise response.
Readers, I must humbly confess a sin to you, out of a desire for other women to learn from my example. Sadly, my husband has had to do something similar to me that Julian did to his wife. You see, HHG has asked me not to put sharp knives in the dishwasher because it dulls the blades and warps the handles over time, but sometimes I sneak them in anyway when I’m feeling too lazy to wash them by hand. He’s reprimanded me for it a few times, rather harshly the last time, and I gave him some disrespectful attitude back. I seem to be intent on rebelling against him on this point.
But oh dear, readers, my naughty hens have now come home to roost! The dishwasher broke yesterday, and he tried to fix it but determined that it could not be fixed. When I said, well, we’d better go get a new one then, he said…
He said we aren’t replacing it because I wouldn’t obey him on the sharp knives! Believe me, I shed a few tears but to no avail. He says that now I can just wash everything, and not only the knives, by hand and let it be a lesson.
Today I am looking at the mound of dishes on the counter and feeling very sorry for myself. Learn from my mistake, ladies. You may think you can get away with disrespect and disobedience, but those consequences, when they finally arrive, are not worth it. Because he is nipping my disrespect for his authority in the bud, you can be sure that I will not test his resolve to respond to rebellious disobedience again. And now, if you’ll excuse me, I have a rather dreadful chore to which I must attend.
Some verses upon which I will be meditating while immersed in dish detergent suds:
- Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. – Col 3:18
- Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Eph 5:22
- Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct [… 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. 1 Peter 3:1-2, 5
- The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. – Proverbs 14:1
- Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline, so be zealous and repent. - Revelation 3:19
- For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Hebrews 12:11