Apparently Missoula, Montana is the “Rape Capital” of the country. Personally, I find that really hard to believe. Last year, the Justice Department investigated the city and local university because of how sexual assault complaints have been handled. Since then, the university and the city of Missoula have been trying to turn their image around.
The campaign Make Your Move! To End Sexual Violence aims to educate men in Montana…I guess to teach them not to be rapists? I’m not really sure exactly what the goal of the campaign is. Some of the posters aren’t so bad, when you think about it. Friends should watch out for their friends. But something seems off to me. Have a look through some of the posters and tell me what you think, dear reader:
In a compassionate society, we would all be looking out for one another, right? In a sane world, if we saw someone who was really drunk, we’d call them a cab. I think what worries me about this campaign is the sense that this isn’t a kindness that a man might do for a woman, but rather an obligation that all men owe all women.
Do all men owe all women the obligation of protecting them?
Maybe in days gone by, when most people lived in small communities, men felt that they owed this to all women. Should they still feel that way now? The Christian in me says that we are to help others in need. Does that mean others have the legal right to demand our help?
And do women have any responsibility whatsoever for their own safety? Where is the alcohol education campaign? If the goal were truly to keep women safe and not just to advance a feministic political agenda, wouldn’t they want to do everything they could to teach women how to keep themselves safe? The obvious common denominator in many of these cases is excessive alcohol consumption; why not point that out to women?
In fact, if feminists really care about women, how about encouraging them not to sleep with men to whom they are not married? And really, if men are truly as dangerous as feminists paint them to be, oughtn’t feminists encourage young women to stay completely away from men?
I went to the Facebook page of this campaign, and it’s pure feminism through and through. Here are some images:
Is it illegal to make a sexist comment? Who decides what is sexist? If someone makes a sexist comment, are they guilty of contributing to rape culture? Can they be prosecuted for this?
What does it mean to support those who report? Does it mean taking her word against his? Does it mean that the woman is always right, that her interpretation of events is never to be questioned, never to be considered critically? What if she’s lying or is reinterpreting consensual sex as rape? And what kind of support are we talking about here?
Women complain that men don’t treat us as if they took us seriously, but ladies, if you want grown ups to take your movement seriously, you have to act like a reasonable adult. When I see women holding signs encouraging other women to be Vagina Warriors, I feel embarrassed for womankind and I don’t blame men for thinking of us as unruly children.
Sure, I have no problem with people treating each other with respect. But if a woman willfully disregards her own safety, what obligation does that put on the rest of us to make sure she stays safe? Are we disrespecting her if we don’t save her from herself? But isn’t that treating her like a child? Isn’t she supposed to be free to make her own choices?
Or is it that she is supposed to be free to make her own choices, no matter how bad, and free from all criticism, but also protected from any negative consequences of those bad decisions? Should men really be encouraged to enable this?
As for calling 911…about what? That a drunken girl is grinding on a drunken boy and you suspect in the morning she will regret it? Because that’s what these assault reports are, by and large. There isn’t an epidemic of strangers dragging kicking, screaming girls into the bushes and brutally raping them; it’s mostly he-said-she-said drunken sex that may or may not have been consensual, depending on whom you ask and when you ask.
We already have this. It’s not helping the situation at all.
Yes, of course. Most men despise rapists. The problem is, Western women often lie when they report sexual assault. If men automatically believe the woman over the man just by virtue of her sex, this really gives women an awful lot of power in an area where they have already proven themselves untrustworthy.
The following group of pictures appear to have been taken on campus at the University of Montana. Something about these pictures bothers me. The heavy emphasis on respecting women smacks of the implication that women are always right, women are always moral, women are always to be trusted, and that to say otherwise is to disrespect women
This last photo is from a different site, but really sums up the concerns I have about a campaign like this:
What if a man doesn’t protect the random women around him who are in harm’s way? Is he obligated to do so in a feminist society, in which women are presumed to be the full equals of men? If we are equal to men in our ability to make good decisions, in our ability to fight in the military, in our work lives, and in our private lives, why do men need to be trained to protect all women they encounter?
Most men I know are really decent guys. They don’t want to see women hurt. They would probably call the police if they saw a woman being harmed. Some might even intervene. There are a few really bad guys out there who want to hurt women, but are they really that big of a percentage of the male population? Is there really, truly an epidemic of young men slipping roofies into women’s drinks? I seriously have my doubts about that.
I like the idea of men protecting women. It makes me feel safe. In a society that was following biblical precepts, we could have that because both sexes would have an equal duty to look out for the well-being of others. God made men larger and stronger, so they are the natural protectors; women are smaller and weaker and are thus the natural servants, but both sexes are to care for the other.
Christ’s Example of Humility
2 So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, 2 complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. 5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. 8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. 9 Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, 10 so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, 11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.
No such duty to serve men exists for women in a feminist culture, so why are women demanding that a duty to protect women exists for men?