All women are hypergamous; they will seek to be with the best possible man they can for both sex and commitment and will use that man as their gold standard from then on. When women’s hypergamy was constrained by social sanctions against divorce, abortion, and sexual promiscuity, society functioned fairly smoothly and assortive mating, in which people of similar sexual attractiveness pair up with one another, was the name of the game.
Post-sexual revolution, hypergamy is completely unchained and we have had the opportunity to see just how virtuous women can be. First, let’s stipulate that each woman’s hypergamy can be satisfied, and that not all women need extreme men to satisfy their hypergamy. However, in a social context where female sexual behavior is unconstrained, you get the following scenario as a possible outcome.
J.J. Reddick is a professional basketball player in Orlando who had a brief sexual affair with a model named Vanessa Lopez. According to Deadspin, Ms. Lopez became pregnant and quiet legal negotiations got underway. The terms were that Ms. Lopez would abort (aka murder) the unborn child and Mr. Reddick would pay her off. At this point in the story, I yawned a bit. Horrifying, but some women will murder their own children in their gold-digging fervor, and it’s not particularly unusual.
But here is where the story gets interesting; Ms. Lopez didn’t just want money. She wanted a written contract between herself and Mr. Reddick stating that she would murder their unborn child in exchange for both money and the contractual guarantee of a social and romantic relationship between the two of them for one year!
Now that’s extreme hypergamy, friends. Ms. Lopez is a model; she does not lack for male attention. Yet she is not quite pretty enough to secure anything other than sex from the very top tier men in our society, which are professional athletes and rock stars. They’ll sleep with her, but they won’t marry her or even date her for long. Plenty of second tier men would no doubt line up to put a ring on her lovely, evil hand, but her unchained hypergamous need to be bound to the highest level man would would ever sleep with her – and yes, I would say she is also an alpha widow in addition to a gold-digging whore – causes her to prefer to a short-term contractual romantic relationship with a top tier man to a normal relationship with a second tier man. And she’ll murder her baby to get it if she has to.
But wait, there’s more! This isn’t the only time she’s done this! Allegedly, this all occurred in 2007. In 2010, she had an affair with the professional basketball player, Shaquille O’Neal, became pregnant by him, and (surprise, surprise) filed a suit against him.
Not all women are as extremely hypergamous as Vanessa Lopez. But in this era of high divorce rates and legalized abortion, we can see the fall-out in even the lives of more ordinary people. Social constraints on female sexual behavior did not just benefit men; such contraints also protected women and children from the worst of women’s possible behavior.