Ladies, you might think you love your husband, but you really don’t. That is because you are an opportunistic, resource-sucking, hypergamy-driven, cold-hearted fembot. Never forget, ladies, that you are actually incapable of love. It doesn’t matter how much you feel like you love your man, whether or not you honor your wedding vows, nor even whether you’ve stood beside him through times of trouble and difficulty.
Allow Rollo to explain to you how you don’t love right, like men do:
I have no doubt that the idealization of marriage, enduring companionship, mutual love and respect are very strong desires for men, but as I stated in my love series, men love idealistically, whereas women’s love is rooted in opportunism. Women get very upset at this proposition because they tend to conflate an unrealistic desire for unconditional love with a love based on a man’s performance for her in order to earn and keep it. It’s not that men expect some childish form of unconditional love, it’s that a man must continue to maintain that love through performing and meriting it – this is what I mean by women loving opportunistically.
So you don’t really love him, you just like what he can do for you a whole lot. You are not, however, aware of the fact that you like what he can do for you. Even though both men and women have prefrontal cortices where our responses to emotions are regulated, you ladies can’t even understand love and loyalty. Rollo explains:
I think what most men uniquely deceive themselves of is that they will ultimately be appreciated by women for their sacrifices. Learn this now, you wont. You can’t be because women fundamentally lack the ability to fully realize, much less appreciate the sacrifices a man makes to facilitate her reality.
You might be feeling convicted right now, dear female reader. You may be saying to yourself:
Of course I love my husband and will be loyal to him until death do us part But Rollo is right. I have been taking my husband for granted. He works so hard, and I really do appreciate it, but I have been very remiss in not expressing my gratitude to him. I will tell him tonight how much I appreciate all that he does for me! Will that make it alright, Sunshine Mary?
I would have thought so, dear lady, but sadly, the answer is no. Deti explains:
I think women get upset at the proposition that their love is based on opportunism, i.e. what he does for her, because it reveals that her love for a man is conditional. This in turn causes her to confront the reality that she just might be as shallow and utilitarian as she accuses the men in her life of being.
No doubt you are confused now. You are ungrateful for not acknowledging your husband’s sacrifices while at the same time being a shallow, utilitarian opportunist if you do express your gratitude for all that your man does. I can’t really help you out here because I am just as confused as you are, but one thing we can know is this: we only love men for their semen and their dollars, and we are simultaneously ungrateful for not saying thank you and opportunistic gold-diggers for saying thank you.
And because men love idealistically, they are not prone to doing what women always do, which is blow up their marriages because they are unhaaaaaappy. Women get that unhappy feeling because they think they might be missing out on something much better, so they chuck their men overboard to chase after it. Usually they end up either alone or with men who are worse than their first husbands (this is actually true and you should read Dalrock’s article on that if you are thinking of dumping your husband to chase after something “better”).
Men, however, never do this. Except when they do. Sam Spade, commenting on Rollo’s thread, tells the story of how he frivorced his wife:
I was married for 3 years (and together for 4.5), post-Red Pill, to a helluva woman. Game came easily in the marriage, in part because I selected a woman who was game “friendly” shall we say. We got along great.
Yet being in my mid-30s, after (I felt) the relationship had run its course, I realized I missed plate-spinning. I could not in good faith reconcile it with my marriage to my wife. I ended the marriage, and although she was heartbroken, we ended it mutually and honorably and with no ill will…It may sound twisted, but I’m proud of how I handled it …In short, I enjoyed the “comforts” of marriage, but missed the adventures of the single life.
Of course, once men do chuck the old ball and chain, it’s a non-stop sex-a-thon for them. Right? He continues:
So here I sit, single. I’m not currently “getting laid” because I’m in the last stages of getting over the breakup.
Oh. Poor guy. My husband “got laid” last night. But no doubt Sam’s harem ship is going to come in any moment now and then he’ll be haaaappy again. Sucks to be his heartbroken ex-wife, who by his own admission was a helluva woman, but then again it was very opportunistic of her to suck him into marriage knowing full well that she had only one poozle to offer up when what he really wanted was a different one each night. So, because Mr. Spade has that superior idealistic love thing that men have, he dumped her ass.
Thank God men don’t love opportunistically like women do.
Undoubtedly the only reason I am pointing any of this out to you is because I am afraid that men will see the inherent amorality of the Feminine Imperative and so I am trying to rebuild the mound by pointing out that this idea that women cannot love or be loyal is actually total bull-pucky.
Just as both women and men will blow up their marriages because they are unhaaaappy, so too are both men and women capable of selfless love, devotion, and loyalty. Believing that women are incapable of love and loyalty just gives women an excuse for all kinds of bad behavior. After all, we can’t expect a woman not to frivorce her man if we don’t even believe she is capable of loving him for anything other than what he can do for her. But women are capable of loving their husbands for more than just his money and performance, and they are capable of fulfilling their vows, and because they are capable of this, we should expect it from them and demand that they exhibit this loyalty or face social censure.
And we should expect both sexes to be able to honor their wedding vows regardless of how haaappy they are.