The only way that it is safe for women to engage in traditional sex roles – keeping the home, nurturing the young, caring for the old, ministering to the sick and the poor – is if they can depend on the support of a husband and kin network. And the only way it is safe for men to engage in traditional sex roles – providing for and protecting women and children – is if their investment in their families is protected from destruction and theft by corporations, governments, and the women themselves.
Egalitarian sex roles inhibit family formation; traditional sex roles enhance family formation. Yet our current legal and social environments are set up to promote artificial egalitarianism. In order to make it workable for men to lead, provide, and protect so that women can return to their traditional feminine sex roles of childbearing, nurturing and care-giving, here is what I believe needs to happen, in no particular order:
1. Repeal all affirmative action laws and policies.
Why: Affirmative action sets up fake egalitarianism based on the assumption that, if women are not present in a given field or earning as much money as men, it must be due to discrimination, when in fact it is due to women’s preferences and innate abilities, which are distinctly different from men’s. Promoting less-capable women inhibits men’s ability to earn sufficient income to support a family.
2. Eliminate over-reaching domestic abuse legislation. There should also be no more relying on a woman’s word; rather, there should be clear cut evidence of physical violence (black eye, bruise, cut, burn) before a man is arrested.
Why: Outside of cases of actual physical abuse, women mostly use these laws to rebel against male authority. However, in order for men to protect their families and communities, they need the cooperation and obedience of the women under their protection. Additionally, a man cannot lead a family if he has no authority over that family, including the authority to mete out discipline as needed for the purpose of maintaining an orderly home. Refusing to buy a rebellious wife a new dishwasher is not abuse. Telling your wife to quit being so bitchy is not abuse. Restraining a wife who is trying to hit you is not abuse. Losing your temper and yelling at your wife, though foolish, is also not abuse.
3. Repeal marital rape laws – not because men are just dying to rape women (they aren’t) but because these laws give women the mistaken impression that they have the right to refuse sex with their husbands.
Why: If we want men to have to marry in order to have access to sex – which is necessary if we are going to foster traditional sex roles and enhance family formation – they must have assurance that they will actually get sex after they marry. If a woman wants to live in a man’s house and eat of his bread, she had better be willing to serve him in this way (barring illness of course); if she refuses to give it to him, he should have the option to take what is rightfully his.
4. Make fornication and adultery illegal and punishable offenses.
Why: In order to build a healthy society based on traditional sex roles, we have to lay out a foundation of incentives and disincentives – rewards and punishments. The cheaters have to be punished if you are going to make cheating unattractive enough to keep people from doing it.
5. Remove women from the military, police, and all other first-responder positions.
Why: Protecting the tribe is a male sex role. Not only are women bad at these jobs, but it is demoralizing to men to have to deal with women in this capacity. It also puts an extra burden on the woman’s male colleagues, who will have a natural desire to protect her.
6. Outlaw divorce or make make divorce extremely difficult to obtain, available only in cases of long-term abandonment or severe physical abuse.
Why: Divorce is the destruction of the family. Presently women file for the majority of divorces because they have a financial incentive to do so in the form of alimony and child support, but even if we removed these incentives, divorce would still be the destruction of the family. The entire reason to promote traditional sex roles is to encourage family formation, and anything that leads to family destruction should be seriously curtailed.
7. End all forms of welfare immediately. Kin should take care of kin. Community- and church-based charity will take care of those who are in need of assistance but do not have family to rely on.
Why: Welfare represents resource redistribution primarily from men to women, making men collectively responsible for women over whom they have no authority. This gives women the mistaken belief that they are somehow able to be “independent” of men; the result is that women eschew their natural sex roles.
8. Decriminalize polygyny, by which I mean make it not illegal for men to be legally married to more than one woman.*
Why: This will be beneficial because a wife who is not living up to her traditional feminine duties will soon find herself having to share her husband’s resources with another woman. Most men won’t want the hassle of supporting two wives if they’re getting what they want and need from one wife, so women will have an incentive to provide what their husbands want and need. This would also improve the quality of men, who would have to compete with one another for access to wives.
*[This (probably) violates tenets of the Christian faith, but that is irrelevant since no man will be forced to have more than one wife, only allowed to have more than one wife. Christian men can simply choose to follow their faith on this matter.]
9. Allow for sex segregation in both the public and private spheres. Allow boys and girls to be educated separately and allow all-male and all-female social and work spaces to exist for those who desire them.
Why: It is very difficult for men and women not to have spaces where they interact with other members of their own sex without having to worry about how they are being viewed by the opposite sex. In particular, all-male spaces seem to be important for the development of masculinity. Furthermore, women who spend a great deal of time around men tend to become unfeminine in behavior.
10. Repeal the Nineteenth amendment. Do not permit women to vote at the national or state level; permit land-owning female heads of household to vote at the local level.
Why: Women tend to vote for the redistributionist policies that promote artificial egalitarianism and the abandonment of traditional sex roles.
These suggestions seem extreme to our modern liberal sensibilities, but consider this: it was only a couple of generations or so ago that all of these (except for decriminalized polygyny) were actually the law of the land. It is not actually as remote in human history as it seems nor would it be impossible to return to these policies. If we want to enhance family formation by returning to traditional sex roles, these are the ten major changes we would need to make as a society.